You Already Understand Yourself. So Why Does It Still Feel This Hard?

You're capable and self-aware, and you've read the books. You can explain exactly why you do what you do. And yet the same loops keep playing out.

The overthinking that won't switch off. The critical voice every time you catch your reflection. The brain that works differently in a world that wasn't built for it. The thoughts you can't stop checking. The heaviness you keep pushing through.

That's not a character flaw. It's a pattern, and patterns can change.

I'm Lilly Geering, a psychologist and hypnotherapist. I help people move beyond insight, working with the deeper patterns that keep them stuck so change can finally hold.

Telehealth sessions, wherever you are in Australia.

Insight isn't the same as change.

There's a version of you that looks completely fine on the outside. Thoughtful. Successful. Holding it all together.

And there's the version that lies awake replaying conversations. That shrinks in certain rooms. That knows the thought is irrational and still can't let it go.

You're not broken, and you're not lazy. Many of the patterns running your days were formed long before you had the awareness to question them. They live in beliefs you don't consciously choose, in how your nervous system reacts, and in habits that run on autopilot.

In my work, I often see that the perfectionism, the people-pleasing and the struggle with how you see your body aren't the whole story. They're often the symptoms. Underneath them, for many women, is something deeper: a quiet belief that you're not enough.

“Insight explains the pattern. Working at an unconscious level can help you rewire it.”

How I can help

Anxiety and overthinkingthe worry loops, the what-ifs, the body that won't settle
Self-worththe deeper belief that you're never quite enough, no matter what you achieve
ADHD and neurodivergenceunderstanding how your brain works and letting go of the shame of being told it's wrong
Body image and eating concernsa kinder, steadier relationship with your body and food
OCDloosening the grip of intrusive thoughts and compulsions
Depression and low moodfinding your way back to energy, meaning and connection
Traumamaking sense of what happened and how it still shows up in your body and choices
See all areas I work with

Sometimes there's another piece to the puzzle

Maybe you've always felt a little too much, or not quite enough. Criticism lands harder for you than it seems to for other people. You've achieved a lot and still feel like an imposter. Your relationship with food is complicated. Or your mind never really switches off.

These experiences can have many causes. For some women, they're part of ADHD that has never been recognised, especially if you learnt early to mask it and keep everything together.

Whether you've been diagnosed, you're wondering, or it's never crossed your mind, we can explore how your brain works and find an approach that works with it, not against it.

What could

feel different

Walking into a room without rehearsing what you'll say. Making a decision and letting it be enough. Seeing your reflection without the running commentary. Having a hard day and knowing how to come back to yourself.

That's what we work towards: more steadiness, less time stuck in your head, and a sense of worth that doesn't depend on how much you got done today.

How it works

1. Book a free 15-minute call
A relaxed chat by phone to see if we're a good fit. You don't need to have the words ready.
2. Book your first session
If we're a good fit, I'll book you in for your first telehealth session.
3. Understand what's keeping you stuck
Together we look underneath the symptoms at the beliefs, nervous system responses and habits driving them.
4. Build new patterns
We pair that understanding with practical tools, and deeper work like hypnotherapy where it suits you, so change carries into real life.